Mrs B , I noticed the Icarus trust replied to your post, perhaps they can help and support you through this difficult time?
I think I would contact them if it was me, I think they have counselling services.
Every situation is different, I suppose. I know I’m probably enabling my son atm, he has no money until payday Friday. But I’ve been keeping him going on food and tobacco. He lives i his own flat thankfully, so whatever he does, its not under our noses like before which was a nightmare.
I feel that, as long as he’s eating, he’s able to work, to earn. At least we’re in contact so I’m happy to do it, but I always get a knot in my stomach when I see he’s phoning me. I guess that feeling never goes until they’re 100 clean for a while.
My husband doesn’t get too involved any more, he’s worried for his mental and physical health. So its pretty much down to me.
I just hope and pray that he can turn a corner like before.
Take care of yourself first and foremost.
Lx