Hi Scairy, welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one with addictions and we all help and support each other.
I’m sorry to read your story I am also mum to a son with alcohol and cocaine addictions. I know what these addictions can do to a family, I can totally sympathise with you.
I wish I had all the answers, but until they admit they have a problem and want help , there’s very little we as parents can do.
The Icarus trust posts here and the forum has support on the homepage..
It’s so hurtful when your child turns into this unrecognisable person who treats you badly and bleeds you dry. My husband and I often say that too, love him but don’t like him/behaviour. Your lad is still there, it’s just this evil addiction that is consuming him.
During lockdown I did a free course on understanding ADHD, there is definitely a link between it and substance abuse.
I remember someone here said to watch the medication, make sure it’s the right one for him. Otherwise you just replace one addiction for another.
I usually post on the Theresa thread, several mums posting about our sons. Everyone is so supportive and kind.
No need to feel alone in this nightmare of addiction.
Take care,
Lx