[lindyloo]

Hi Scairy, welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one with addictions and we all help and support each other.

I’m sorry to read your story I am also mum to a son with alcohol and cocaine addictions. I know what these addictions can do to a family, I can totally sympathise with you.

I wish I had all the answers, but until they admit they have a problem and want help , there’s very little we as parents can do.

The Icarus trust posts here and the forum has support on the homepage..

It’s so hurtful when your child turns into this unrecognisable person who treats you badly and bleeds you dry. My husband and I often say that too, love him but don’t like him/behaviour. Your lad is still there, it’s just this evil addiction that is consuming him.

During lockdown I did a free course on understanding ADHD, there is definitely a link between it and substance abuse.

I remember someone here said to watch the medication, make sure it’s the right one for him. Otherwise you just replace one addiction for another.

I usually post on the Theresa thread, several mums posting about our sons. Everyone is so supportive and kind.

No need to feel alone in this nightmare of addiction.

Take care,

Lx

[scairyfairy1956]

Hi Lindyloo,

Thank you so much for replying to my post and I’m sorry that you are in a similar position with your Son as we are.

Your right about them admitting they have a problem and they are to ones to seek help there is very little you can do, it took me a while to come to that outcome, I just wish my OH could see that to.

I will have a look on the Theresa thread, sometimes it helps to be able to communicate with others in a similar position.

Thank you

ScairyFairy

[lindyloo]

Hi Scairy, try not to give up hope. There are many success stories here too.

My son joined AA and CA meetings and did them regularly, much better in person than online he says. He managed to stay clean almost 6 months, he managed 3 months before that. The fellowship are great, so supportive and helpful he has met many contacts through it.

It does help speaking to others here in similar situations, you don’t feel so alone. Many times you can’t speak to family or friends for fear of being judged.

In the meantime look after yourself, whatever makes you relax or happy.

Take care and keep posting here to chat.

Lx

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