Hi Everyone
We are all strong women and need to take control and look after ourselves, and enjoy our lives.
Selfish – yes.
But why not?
Our sons will continue to behave in this way as long as they are addicts and we will continue to waste our lives and become more depressed, tired, ill.
I am currently having counselling and the common thread is look after yourself and cut ties for your own self worth and wellbeing.
I realised a long time ago I had to do this, and cut ties with my son. I realised he wasn’t the son I once knew and loved. He is now a drug addict, selfish and puts this first over everything.
I guess I needed a ‘professional’ to tell me it was ok to do this.
All that we have done for him as parents means nothing and is thrown in our face whenever it’s questioned as to why he’s ended up here.
He still lives with us. has just finished his degree by the skin of his teeth – he started his dissertation 2 days before it was due!
He works part time and is constantly overdrawn, however his student bank account will now cease and he will be charged for his overdraft.
My husband still sees the good in him, but I’ve explained this is our 5th year but I hid it from him for 2!!
I cannot get over the pain, hurt and anguish he has caused me.
I have blocked him on all social media, whatsapp and texts/calls. I unblock texts if my husband is working away just in case he needs to call should he get into trouble.
He now has a new girlfriend who is oblivious to it all – he sees her, they do nice things, he drops her home and then goes to meet his friends , smoke weed , drie home , gets back early hours.
He got in at 3.30am, as I write this it’s 12.10pm. He’s still in bed and has work at 3.
He’ll get up, eat, shower , got to work till 11pm, smoke after work till the early hours – repeat either going out mid afternoon to meet his friends or work.
The circle of his life.