Hello ladies-
68862, that is a terrible dilemma to have. I really don’t know what I would do in your situation with your grandson. I wouldn’t want to break that bond either and yet, there is a child to protect. I will pray for you, not an easy situation. The power of the addiction is so strong. They won’t stop for us mothers or families, but to think they won’t stop for their own children just blows my mind!
Lindyloo- thank you for your constant prayers and kind words. I will take any and all prayers! God has given us each other and I’m so grateful. ????
MrsB247- it really is a good thing that he at least finished his degree even if it was by the skin of his teeth. There’s at least something in him that knows he needed it. Even if he did it for you and his dad, he still did it. It could be there’s a chance with him, he’s still young and at least you have the leverage of telling him to move out if he’s not doing what he’s supposed to be doing. Still, you can’t wait until then until then to take care of yourself. I wish I would have done counseling sooner. It would have given me the strength to make him deal with the consequences of his drinking sooner. Who knows?
Update for me: you may recall that my son went to the hospital to detox around April 10th. We’ve only spoken by text since he’s been home. He says he’s been sober and recovering since then. I texted him a few days ago. He said that he’s still depressed, but that he’s been feeling more like himself. He asked if I would like to get together soon, but said he would understand if I didn’t want to. He said he wouldn’t be mean or strange. I said, let’s check in next week. I will be so nervous to see him. There’s just been so much damage done to me this last relapse. I’m sure it will be very awkward. I will make sure it’s in a public place. I’ll keep you all posted. He somehow managed to get in to a class this summer so I guess that keeps the loans going. It’s a daily class so hopefully it will make him stay on the straight and narrow. Really it just prolongs the inevitable.
I’m proud of myself because I have been able to focus still on my life, and not obsess over his daily status. I’ve been through this so many times, that I no longer think that this time he’ll finally stop for good. Of course I always hope, but I’m working hard on just living my life and not rushing back to get back in his which I used to always do.
Blessings my UK friends! ❤❤❤