Hi Kate1,
So sorry to read this, I know Addiction is an illness but sometimes you feel like shaking them and hoping that they wake up in to the real world.
Like you I used to take my Son to work, well, I used to pick him up from his then girlfriend to make sure he came home to go to work, but no offer of petrol money or much thanks, and no money after he had got paid.
It is different now, he has his own van, and works hard, but still struggles as I posted at the weekend.
I know it’s hard, but I think you need to take a step back, just for your own mental health, it is very wearing.
Until he admits he has a problem and you stop enabling him, it’s going to carry on, I don’t mean to be harsh, but I used to do exactly the same, and it was just taken for granted many, many times.
Take some time for yourself, I’m not very good at doing this, but do try and switch off, I think it helps.
Keep sharing on here, we are all here to help and chat.
Take care.
Dx