Jem- I also think of the ‘should be’s”. You could think about this all the time, but we know we’re just punishing ourselves.
Sometimes you need to ‘have a moment’ or a vent, a problem shared…and all that!
I had my vent yesterday, feel a bit better today thankfully. Hubby is feeling low though.
Kate1- I often feel that I’m in mourning too, for the way my son was, or as a child. I feel like he’s a lost soul just now. Glad you’ve had a positive moment- a way forward, which is good.
Sending hugs ❤️
Lx