Hi Cali111,
Welcome to the Forum.
You will feel better for just sharing your story and getting it off your chest.
Obviously your Husband is an Addict, I don’t know whether he has admitted this to you, but all the signs are there, the money, the lies, not coming home.
I am the Mum of an addict (alcohol and cocaine), the alcohol triggers the need for cocaine, and of course this is where the money goes, it’s a very expensive hobby.
He will only get help when he wants too, and if he wants too. It’s an evil drug and changes them into,people we don’t recognise, but it is also a living hell, which i wouldn’t wish on anyone.
Have you got close friends or family you can talk too?
I know it might sound harsh but knowing what I know now, I would run for the hills and concentrate on yourself, hopefully there is no children involved.
Look after yourself first and keep in touch on the Forum, read the other threads, there are some very sad stories.
Take care.
Dx