Hi Em
I’m glad that you’re getting help from the social worker, that’s a good start.
I guess this is a difficult time for your aunt, so many changes. And she has recently lost her husband.
With my relative’s dementia, she liked routine. Her weight also went up and down. Before the carers were organised, I used to visit her regularly and set out her tops and trousers, let her choose between two that matched. Still giving her a bit of control, then set them out for the carer to dress her in the morning. She didn’t like the carers at first, but she soon got used to them and I met them too.
We used to make a point of taking her out for a meal every Sunday and looked forward to it.
The hospital had a dementia group they took twice a week, she wasn’t sure at first, but she got used to it and enjoyed the company. The Social work could possibly tell you what’s available. My relative gradually had mobility issues so she was happy to get out the house. I know that there will be moments of frustration but I guess they’re just frightened.
Things will get better, you will both get used to this different situation. The bills will have to wait until POA is organised.
Find time for yourself when you can.
Always here to chat.
Lx