Rough weekend. My son has been trying to get sober off and on the last few weeks. He tells me that he keeps trying to be that person who can be a moderate drinker and it never works.
He called me at 3:30 in the morning the other night and sounded awful and paranoid. (This always seems to happen, me and my husband were leaving the very next day for a weekend away to see some fall color in the mountains near us).
He admitted that he drank too much and he was freaking out because somehow he got back to his apartment and woke up the next day and thought that he had fallen, but then thought (and still does) that he got beaten up right outside his apartment in the hallway. He has been worried for some time because he’s fairly certain that the woman in the apartment next to his is a drug dealer. He says people are coming and going all the time so he complained to the landlord and now he thinks that maybe her and her boyfriend may have beat him up while he was drunk. The problem is, he can’t remember anything. He told me he has a black eye and bruises on his body.
I talked to him for two hours on the phone trying to calm him down. He was completely irrational when I talked to him last week. He wanted my husband to come and get him in the middle of the night and take him “somewhere”, I assume back to our house, and hire him a lawyer! He asked me to tell no one, because he can’t remember anything and he says people will just think he was drunk. He called me the next morning as I’m packing nd I told him so, and he said this is very important! Anyway, we left and I tried to have a nice time but worried about him because I have no idea what to think.
I just talked to him a half hour or so ago, and he apologized, that he is certain that he has a concussion and that is why he was irrational. (He did not go the doctor).
He’s frustrated with me because he feels that I “lectured” him when we talked because he says these unlucky things always happen to him and I pointed out the drinking doesn’t help things go right.
I’ve been very anxious today. I think that time is running out for him with his degree and he is running out of money and I anticipate that he will expect to come to my home. I just can’t do it. I can’t physically handle it and I’m pretty sure it will destroy my marriage.
I feel like he is emotionally blackmailing me. And yet, it’s awful that he is hurt.
Just had to vent…..????