Reading all the posts are so heartbreaking. Being able to relate to what everyone is going through in one way or another be it past or present or fear for the future.
How much I ask is down to our loved ones personality?
When i hear time and again from you all what I also hear from my son ..that we are to blame….they blame us is just heartbreaking and now my son is 7 mnths clean and yet i still get the abuse..the emotional blackmail that if I dare suggest he gets a job contributes to the house I am accused of stressing him and triggering him to relapse…. just pure blackmail.
I used to blame the addiction for his past abuse but sadly I. Seeing that clearly that isnt the case and that actually I think he enjoys the label of addict to enable him to behave this way.
I’m sorry if I offend anyone by saying this and if i seem cold and unloving but given what I have had to endure for years and the constant worry and yet support weve given him I still cant beleive that I live on eggshells in my own home.
The Scottish government are talking about decriminalisation class A drugs… on the one hand I’ve always felt that this is a good thing so addicts can get support and help rather than a criminal record but then where is the consequence of ones actions?
So many of our loved ones continue to play victim and blame those around them and even a recovering addict like my son uses his label as emotional blackmail and abuse.
I feel trapped in a horrid nightmare. Is it much to just want to be treated with love and respect from the people who we worry endlessly over and bail out to the point we have no money for our own happiness.
Sorry rant over !