Hello friends, it’s me again. Yet another rough weekend. Last week I called my son to check in with him and he seemed good. He asked about me which is very rare, and because the conversation seemed fine, I told him I was going to visit his sister and my grandkids for the weekend. Big mistake..
The texts started the night before I left, and then emails started coming in to me, my husband, his sisters, my sister, his grandparents and strangely, the son-in-law of his step-grandfather who has at times tried to help him. They were all emails about how we judge him and how hurtful it is to him to label him an alcoholic, and then he started to say that this is his last word and that death is near.
Well you can imagine that the phone calls started come in to me the whole weekend. Me and everyone else were very worried. I reached out to him and he said everybody dies and other nonsense and just downplayed the whole thing.
Of course, we could not just let this go. His sister reached out to him by text, and they got into it. He said similar things to her and she called me, so I told her to call the authorities to do a wellness check on him.
Within an hour, he called me just furious that his sister had called the police on him! I told him that you have been talking death etc., and that I stand by what she did. He said that we all should know him better than that and that he was just talking metaphorically!! We argued for a good hour until midnight, and I had to fly out the following morning. He ruined my trip. I tried to be myself with my daughter’s family, but I’m human. He then sent an apology the following morning. His sister who called the police, was so mad after all that, that she texted him and said that he is toxic and she is blocking him. His other sister, the one I visited, hasn’t unblocked him since last spring, so she wasn’t receiving the emails. But she could tell something was wrong with me and everyone was calling me so I told her what was going on. I was talking to my sister the whole time and she was so angry at the nasty things he said in his email, some directed specifically at her, that she told me she is blocking him. His grandparents were calling me concerned. The son-in-law was contacting the grandparents because of his death threats. My husband was in the mountains and didn’t see or read any of this.
And now I’m left holding the ashes. He texted me last night and he is still angry at his sister and says we’re all judgmental and says that his emails about all of us are ‘truth’. He takes no responsibility for the things he said, except to say it’s from the concussion from when he got beat up (from my last post).
I’m completely exhausted.