Hi Bump, I’m really sorry this has happened. I know that feeling so well of starting to pick up your life and think about other things just for it to all come crashing down. Your son has done brilliantly in starting to put his life back together. Hopefully he’ll come back around and get on track. My son, who is still using, but a lot less, won’t engage with the 12 step program. I think you said your son is doing this, hopefully they will support him and encourage him to pick up again.
I remember talking to a counsellor when my son was about 6 months clean and very hard to live with, she said that as they’ve been numbing themselves against their problems for so long that it’s like they’ve lost their ‘emotional’ skin and all conflict and stress has a massive negative effect. I know we all know that, so sorry for stating the obvious.
I really hope you have an okay day despite all of this. Like you, I wonder when my son will have his own home again.