Februarymarie your son may well have had a seizure as you know mine did. Definitely cocaine induced although still not confirmed but the after effects lasted a long time. It certainly didn’t happen and business as usual he wasn’t with it for days.
Being all consumed rings so true in our house. It’s all we think about morning noon and night. All we are trying to do is fix it for them but deep down we know we can’t. We’ve suffered at the hands of their abuse, selfishness and extreme behaviour because we hope that one day it will end. My husband has lost so much weight through the stress and friends have started to say he looks ill. I know I’ve lost that sparkle and have dark circles that I shouldn’t have.
Your comment about disposable funds hits home so much. Our son asks for our help but he thinks our help is in the form of money, the “pot of cash” we’re sitting on. That pot of cash is dwindling and we worked our backsides off to make sure we’re secure in later life. Our kids never went without, had food in their belly love and a warm bed to sleep in all because we cared and put them first.
Each time I think we have to walk away. Say no, goodbye, its your bed but it’s so damn hard. My parents weren’t fussing after me when I was his age, checking I had food, checking I’d made that doctor’s appointment to get my repeat medication. Why oh why do we do it???
Sending you love and strength to keep going and get through this.