To you all , sending hugs and strength.
My now ex husband was my best friend and I loved him so much , had two beautiful children together and a good life but 4 years ago I don’t know how he got there , he started on the cocaine every day to function.
He eventually became a cold, non functional shell , who cared about no one but himself and disappeared for days in hotels binging and still days to this day he doesn’t have a problem with it . I had to leave him early last year as I was in a dark place with his lies and deceit and he was financially sinking us ,after I left he continued to abuse the coke and he overlapped it with the care of our kids on his visitation so after a very turbulent length time I stopped him seeing them and it went to court, in Retaliation he refused to sign the financial agreement for our divorce and took me to court for that also . He spent his business float and funds from sale of FMH on coke intentionally and gambling, prostitutes and living the life style nothing short of a local millionaire !. He’s now dragging me through court to get half of the house his kids and I live in even though he gave it to me in our initial agreement and claiming he’s broke because his business got into bother .His family do nothing but enable him and claim I’m wrong to kept the kids away and are claiming he’s clean when he says he is ?! but they say that’s him now and there’s nothing more they can do .. he isn’t clean it’s a small place we live and courts proved such why they think it’s ok for two under 7 yr olds are put at risk with him is beyond me .
my advice, if they don’t show signs of wanting to get help and sort themselves out , get yourself ( and kids if any ) out of there as fast as you can . Mine is a cold monster that I no longer recognise and every day I sit in disbelief at some point of my day as to how he thinks they using and looking after two small children is acceptable when under the influence and his attempt to financially ruin not just me but the kids after everything he put us through.
I know as soon as eyes are off him at court I’ll more than likely be back to square one with the children and their safety terrifies me because he doesn’t see a problem driving on it , sleeping most of the days etc. Cocaine really is the devils dandruff . I’m gutted for each one of you because it’s nothing short of hell and I was never able to grieve losing him . stay strong , you can do this – but you have to think of number one and your babies if there are any . Loves xx