Lottier
Sorry you and your daughter are going through this, sadly I’ve not advice for your situation on shared parenting. I know of friends in difficult shared parenting situations where the father is difficult but that is putting it mildly for your situation. His behaviour is manipulative and vindictive towards you and sounds like could be like this with your daughter too, so all your instincts must be screaming to protect your daughter from him. Emotional abuse is very traumatic, I am going through it myself.
I can only suggest reaching out to women’s aid – Google them there is a helpline and they can hopefully put you in touch with a specialist in abuse who can best advise, including support through the family courts.
Sending you strength and positivity, hope it all gets settled for you very soon, you don’t deserve this crap xx