Happy belated birthday Bump and Lindyloo! I hope both of you were able to have some joy in your lives with your birthdays! ????????
Bump- I really think it’s great that your son is getting back to the meetings! He at least knows he needs to be there.
Kate- I hope you are managing things alright and can find some bits of happiness with your daughter and your granddaughter. If I were in your place, I would want to know as much as possible about my son’s situation. My best friend lost her son to a drug overdose about 7 years ago. He was staying with her and his sister was there too. He had been sober for a couple of weeks because had a court date the next morning. She was with him almost the whole time and he somehow managed to get some alcohol and pills that he either took on purpose or for his nerves for the court date. My friend went to wake him up and he was on the floor-unconscious. Hours later, they had the very hard task of removing life support because he had had a severe seizure and was brain dead. I was there through it all with her- it was heart-breaking.
She tried for years to get answers from everyone she could think of. She got some answers that he was doing more drugs than she truly knew, but unfortunately, she never got the “why” he chose to take drugs/alcohol that night. I truly believe that if she had slept in a bed in the same room right next to him, it still would have happened. She kept saying, “I was right across the hall!” She kept thinking that she missed something or some sign.
I will tell you that after these many years, I have watched her come to a peace with it all. She started a college scholarship for him and that has kept her going. I admire her for that- I don’t know if I would have had the stamina. She takes great joy from her grandchildren. And she focuses only on the good of his life and not his drug side. It’s just what works for her. And now she’s watching me go through it with my son too. My son and her son were childhood friends. You’d think this all would have scared my son straight, but no…
I’m still struggling with my son. I go back and forth about wanting to talk to him even though it always seems to go bad. My communication break will not be permanent, I just need some more time. I hate not talking to him, and I hate talking to him. Like you all, I miss the real him.
I do hope you all have a peaceful weekend with no drama. ????