Hello everyone,
Kate, I won’t be trying to publish my story anytime soon, in my experience it would do more harm to my son than good. You know what I’m talking about regarding Social care and the police. However, I do intend to write to my MP when I have calmed down a bit. Could be in months or even years time. Tis a long road.
I’m so sorry for your loss and I know that you are an amazing mother. I’m sure your strength is being passed on to your daughter and granddaughter. I don’t pretend to imagine what it must be like for you to lose your son. The grief and the pain. I don’t have the words and ‘time is a great healer’ well I’m sure just doesn’t cut it. I read /listen to all of your posts and think of you often. Thank you for sharing.
I heard today ( again ) that my son is to be moved sometime this week. The anxiety is crippling. I can’t cope with any more disappointment. I’ll let everyone know when he does eventually move and then I will have some good news of sorts to share. I never thought I would say my son being moved to an acquired brain injury (ABI) unit is good news, especially since the injury was acquired through an act of violence towards him.
Vic152UH, welcome to the forum. You are in the best place to share. Your current situation reminds me of when my son was that age living at home with me; safe in a sense.
I forget to mention in my last rant that I was terrible at implementing boundaries. It was because I cared so much for his youth and well being. On reflection I can see where I went wrong in some ways. I was so concerned about my sons mental health I didn’t take heed to who was supplying his cannabis, and on lesser occasions, ecstasy and MDMA. The knowledge that buying drugs in this country is illegal stopped me from asking too many questions. In the beginning it was always ” a friend ” or ” don’t worry mum its a guy from college” It took about four years until he would eventually succumb to heroin.
I do believe if cannabis was legal he would be fine today. Yes, he would most likely still have his mental health problems, but he would be safe. Not everyone who uses drugs becomes addicted, but many dealers can spot a vulnerable meal ticket a mile off. I now advocate for safe supply within the drugs community.
There have been times when I really don’t know how I would have coped without the people here who have only ever shown me kindness.
Love Ivy x