Hi Georgie, I’m really sorry to hear about how things are with your son. The only advice I can give is to try and do things with your life that make you feel in control, so you are not waiting around for your son to grow-up and start treating you properly. There is no point in looking for logic or fairness in the way that they act when its like this. I also think they are more vulnerable to falling in with girlfriends who have their own issues – otherwise why would they be with our son’s when they are like this. You have to find a way of living your life that isn’t reliant on how your son is day-to-day. The problem when they aren’t at home is that you worry about them constantly, but try and have some time in the day when you aren’t doing that and you are doing something that you enjoy. I remember when I first found out my son was using heroin, I was a real mess, and someone advised me to give it a good airing each day, think about it, and then try and put it away for a while and think about other things. Its hard to do that when they are at home kicking off, but maybe easier if they live away from home. I find going out for a walk with the dog really good for taking my mind of things. I hope that doesn’t sound preachy or that I think this is easy, it isn’t, its really hard.
