Georgie your post has alot of similarities to me.
I agree with Jems advice but sometimes it can get all consuming and you forget to put it to one side and concentrate on positive things and ypur own well being. Also .y son also had an awful on and off girlfriend she also has issues and always helps get him drugs. She doent like me as she o ly wants to see my sons side of things and frankly she has o self respect anyway so as far as I’m concerned I ignore anything she has ever said.
I’ve been through hell the last few weeks and last 24hrs no different my son was returned back from a off his head expedition to london. He spent the day staggering around the house out of his mind and frankly not really lucid thanks to the drink and drugs hes been taking 24/7.
His near death episode has not resonated with him at all. Ive had numerous conversations with mental health and social services etc yesterday.
But he decided to take himself off to London to beg and get a hostel despite having some money and council accommodation lined up..spent the night worried sick reporting him missing and hearing through one of his friends hed threatened to top himself. My husband got the first train into london and made contact and bought him home.
He was still drinking at 6am and was a state on return.
I have now deposited him At his new bedsit bought him lunch despite having enough in begging money to buy his own.
Hes actually choosing that way of life at the moment and has no thought for how he stresses us.
The accommodation is only for the the current spell of bad weather after that who knows but I cant see him turning it around anytime soon.
I hate to say it seeing him and the state hes in the last few days has turned from pity to anger.
All the services are lined up for him now but he has to engage and do it himself. I’m embarrassed by him and intend to try and relax and enjoy this weekend before the next episode of chaos.
He has been so chaotic this last week I havnt had time to catch my breath. I’ve tickets to the
theatre for my youngest tonight in the west end and am struggling to stay awake ..he is able to ruin everything but I’m going to have to remind myself to be selfish ..or shld I say just look after myself.
I know that this weekend will be no different in terms of what he gets up to but I’m hoping that with it not right under my nose I can shut it out.
I know my son cld do with some.mental health support but even so i find him so selfish. Everything is all about him, a pity party everything is everyone else’s fault. Everyone owes him and he never thinks of anyone else. He has o morals and self respect..begging on tubes for a hostel when he had council bedsitined up so that he can spend his begging money on drink.
A real eye opener to beggars on the street I cant help now but question their authenticity. All the people he duped into feeling sorry for him I’m sorry its just shameful