My son does the same thing with the worrying about his everyday health. He’s has scars above both eyes from falling, he’s broken both legs on different occasions ( one leg required extensive surgery and the other he never treated so he has an improperly healed ankle, he’s been hospitalized from pancreatitis twice- which makes them very ill, he’s been hospitalized for being undernourished from doing nothing but drinking and not eating, he was beaten up or fell last September- he can’t remember, he broke a bone in his face from falling at the ER last November, he has ulcers on his tongue so bad (from alcohol) that he has a hard time talking, and he worries that his hair is thinning or that he doesn’t want to catch a cold! It’s ridiculous.
And all of this is so shocking to me as a mother. Any one of those incidents is so terrible on it’s own let alone a whole list of them. The addiction colors how you react. As a mom, I would want to care for him if he’s hurt and half the time he doesn’t even tell me until it’s serious and then he wants compassion and help. I can’t even figure out what the right thing to do is. Either way, it wears on me. And one can’t help but feel anger and frustration when this is all a result of an addiction and he says, “Oh that wasn’t from drinking, I swear”.
Yes, you just keep looking to tomorrow…..
Love and hugs to you too. ????