Hi Joanie – I’m starting to realise there is nothing we can do. In our heads they are just our little boys and we are trying to sort out their problems – but in reality they are grown men with mental health issues and we are becoming ill with them. It’s just pure love that keeps us going but unfortunately it’s not love that makes the world go round, but trust. And we have none left, and when the trust is gone the love is cracked and damaged and we just pick up the pieces as we go along.
We can try tough love, soft love etc. But if they don’t have self-love nothing we do is going to work. If you continue to love him he might find that self-love but it’s not guaranteed and you will give as much as you can for as long as you can.
Take care of yourself.xx