Hi Joanie59, I’m sorry you are dealing with this. I don’t have the answers. I can say that you are not responsible for your son’s sobriety whether he is with you or not. He and he alone, is responsible for his sobriety, and haven’t we all seen that there is not a whole lot that we can do to maintain any sobriety with them, although it sure seems like they try to pin a relapse on their families sometimes. My son tells me that when I say anything negative, he feels guilty and then it triggers a relapse. That really bugs me. I’m supposed to stay silent and walk on eggshells, that’s very hard to do. We’re human too.
I really hope that you are able to start taking the small steps that get your life back. I’m trying too. This isn’t how I thought things would be when I envisioned my life after raising children.
Hugs to you….❤️