Hi Joanie, I do get your predicament, and how you want to help support your son to keep his job. My son stopped working at the start of Covid and everything spiralled after that. Adfam offer a few free one to one counselling sessions, it might be worth talking to them. I found that really helpful.
As Georgie said Gabor Mate’s book is really good for getting the addicts perspective. For me, the one that helped most of all was Understanding and Helping an Addict by Andrew Proulx. He was an addict and a doctor so sees it from both sides.
Does your son talk to any online support communities or engage with AA? They can be a great support system if he’s prepared to open up and talk to others about his problems?
I know none of this is easy, I wish there was a solution for all of us x