Hi Joanie, please don’t beat yourself up looking for reasons why your son has an addiction. I’m sure he was and is still loved.
At the end of the day, they make these choices. I’m sure he had a good upbringing like all our lads .
I think with my son has undiagnosed ADHD and OCD. Whatever he does, it’s 100%- no off button, when his pals were able to stop drinking alcohol or taking cocaine- he kept on going unfortunately. Then the vicious cycle of addiction starts.
Thankfully 2 yrs ago he admitted he was struggling. Doctors offer no help with addictions, they are referred to addiction services who refer them back to Doctors- so nothing helps.
He joined AA and CA groups, relapsed a few times but currently 7 months clean and is helping others in the group now.
He told me his medicine is the regular meetings to fight the addiction. He’s only just started sleeping better, the withdrawal nightmares were awful for him.
He’s more thoughtful and shows his feelings now. I still look over my shoulder almost like ptsd, but I’m trying to relax a bit more. I don’t get too complacent as I know circumstances can change very quickly for people in recovery.
I still pray for strength for him and for all of us here that things will improve- I’m so sad to read what some of you are going through- you all sound like such loving, caring mums.
Sending you all hugs
Lx ❤