Hi Emma- welcome to this forum. It really has been a godsend to me and many others, a place where we can share in an understanding space. I’m sorry to hear about your sister. Your story sounds very much like my son’s- he’s a severe alcoholic too. He too, has suffered from alcohol psychosis multiple times. It’s absolutely terrifying. It’s so deflating when you get everything together for them to finally get the help that you know they desperately need, and then they refuse. Something similar happened with us a couple of years ago. At his counselor’s recommendation, we coaxed him in to a place we thought was to be a detox and then to rehab. It turns out it was just an overnight detox center and he checked himself out the next morning and told me to never put him in a prison like that again. It’s an impossible situation for the families of these addicts. The decision to get well must be on them. And you’re left with trying to make your own life a bit better. I’m sorry for your family and your sister. I’m glad your mom has you.
Halo20- it’s good to hear from you, but I’m sorry you’re still on your rollercoaster with your son. The overwhelming sadness is a constant. It’s hard to hope, but we do anyway as we should. Some addicts do get and stay sober. Hang in there as best as you can- you’re not alone.
Bump- even though things have been awful for you lately, there is a small positive that your son seems to at some point get back to therapy somehow. I hope he sees that it’s the only way that he can a part of your home again. Try and rest now that he is temporarily safe, it takes it’s toll doesn’t it?
bella73- you may have been on here before and I missed it, but welcome anyway. You sound like me in that you just keep trying to have a normal relationship with the son you used to have and it just doesn’t work. I text and very occasionally see my son (when he’s sober) and it’s strained- at least for me. I’m wary of him- he’s hurt me a lot. As I said to Emma, as hard as we try, we can’t stop them from ruining their lives. You can control only what you can control, which is to set boundaries for your self so you don’t go down too, take as best care of yourself as you can, and give your energy to those in your life who deserve it and will reciprocate it. And pray..
Ladies- I think and pray for you all and I pray for all your addicted loved ones too. Much love ❤️