Sorry for delay relying I’ve had problems with my password.
Thanks jem my son is still at rehab so entering his 4th week now.
He seems to bo doing well I havnt had much contact he has no credit on his phone and has made the decision not to get any as Its helping him switching off from outside. We can still call him though but he rarely picks up.
Its nice to know he is safe and on the right tracks.
I’m.not going to lie it’s been good to not to have to worry and stress so much over him.
Joanie I hope u got to a hairdresser and got some pampering even if an hour in the hairdressers chair cld let u relax for a bit.
Listening to u guys also saying about funded rehab.. it’s taken me a few years to find this one and that was by fluke when I called a homeless charity as I was trying g to find him accommodation after the council put him in a crack den.
This place is in london and is funded by benefit. He can stay in this part for 3 months and after that can go to a move on house but that then becomes u affordable as its £600 a week..I dont know how they can charge that to the the residents as part of the rehab rules is that you cant work….and u also to have to be homeless in the first place to get in there?
The rules for all these places are very odd . I’ve got his name down for a move on type of house with another charity which wont be part of the rehab but wld be supported and covered by housing benefits whilst he gets a job.
I have thought wldnt it be great to have one website we cld all go to which had all the organisations and rehab places listed in one place as I shldbt have had to chase around for the last 5 years and just accidentally stumble on this place. That said maybe it’s all about timing and maybe my son still had to get to this dark place and us along with him to actually consider getting off the drink and drugs who knows.
I think jem when u say what cld you have done differently over the last 6 years we all have those thoughts but ultimately we have to comfort ourselves with the fact any decisions we have made have come out of love and we will never know if they have been right or not but our sons are lucky that we are on this site because we love them..and all we are doing is making what we think is the right decision at the time… let’s not rack ourselves with guilt..I’m guilty of that too but the voice of reason tells me I didnt make my son an addict and I’ve done all I can to support him.
Even his sponsor said to me that he himself as a recovering addict wld have been a addict whatever had gone on in his lifeand I agree. Some people go through the worst traumas and yet not just survive but make a huge success in life ..others can have an easy life but lack resilience when the tiniest thing doesnt go their way and resort to harming g themself if not by drugs or something else…its mental health.
I know alot of women who if they had been through what we have wld have had breakdowns..I mean I know I’ve struggled and still do with PTSD from it and anxiety but I’m still here …sometimes with my long covid it knocks me back but I’m still here
All we can do ladies is look after ourselves as much as we possibly can and if we have days where getting out of bed seems impossible and we cant face another day…remind yourself you can do it..have that day in bed if it helps or go to the dr but we can do it. I send out all my love to you all.
Everyone on this site deserves a medal x