Hey ladies, as much as I try to often give information from the side of the person who is suffering with addiction. There too must always be a line that you draw to safe guard yourself. No one deserves to live in a hostile environment and I know just how hard it must be for you living with the destruction caused by having a partner who is addicted.
I will always stand up for those who are suffering but those who want to get help and those who have fallen victim to addiction. I would be a fool to think that there too is guys out there who have been offered love and compassion and help but refuse it and continue to use and abuse their partners.
If you feel you are at the point where you have done everything you can and are still being walked all over. Then maybe the answer is to walk away.
The reality of you doing so and the loss of everything that comes with your love for them may finally be the wake up call needed.
If I’m honest as much as I never treated my partner bad, was aggressive or abusive to her, it was just the lying about working late when sat in my car using or the money I would spend and have to hide. It took her to really walk away for me to finally take action. It was the best thing she has ever done for me as it made me realise that just the fact, I provided and was in most ways a great partner to her that it wasn’t acceptable for me to live the way I was.
I hope that kind of makes sense in some way, sending you love and strength
James x