That’s amazing. Well done your son.
Interestingly my son was convicted of GBH against his then partner a few years ago, she pleaded on his behalf as they have two children, he was given 2 year suspended sentence. With prison hanging over his head and drug and alcohol testing as well as probation etc, he remained clean, got a job and paid down his debts. The very minute that suspended sentence was lifted, he ‘celebrated’ and here we are again.
He could stop when his freedom was jeopardised, when he faced punishment for the terrible attack he perpetrated. He doesn’t think twice about getting behind the wheel of a car under the influence, doesn’t see his children and lies to them about where he is and what he is doing, uses his older children to lean on emotionally, guilt tripping them all the time, but won’t stop drinking or taking drugs when he can see the terrible impact he is having on his children. Absolutely no empathy. For me that says it all.
Having an adult child as an addict is bad enough, having an adult addicted child who has his own children is a whole new level of significant problems. As his mother I have to face their questions, their fears, their disappointment, their belief that he doesn’t love them. My efforts are now going into them and not him I am afraid. Sorry if anyone finds that offensive but they are innocent victims of his behaviours in all of this and 25 years of trying to ‘help’ has resulted in him never taking responsibility or even been held to account for the things he has done to our entire family, his siblings, his nieces and nephews included.