Hi Pambler- I admire you for being able to read these posts from us moms- not an easy thing to do. Don’t feel selfish for talking about yourself. Yes, it’s a hard road for the loved ones, but I can say that my son is in absolute hell when he is not sober- many people suffer. In fact, you must think of yourself initially to start the road to sobriety. You must prioritize yourself and help for your addiction in order to get well. My son expresses deep guilt when he gets sober at what he has done to his family. I tell him to focus on himself and getting well and there is a loving family waiting for him.
Whoever are those people who love you, whether family or not, I imagine they want the same for you.
Never, ever give up. You might relapse, but stop as quickly as you can and start again and don’t look back on it. From what I’ve read about addicts, those who get sober and remain sober, just reach a point where enough is enough. I will pray for you. You can do this.
Kate1, I thought it might be coming up on the 1 year anniversary of your son. I hope the pain has lessened somewhat for you and your family. Love to you. ❤️