That’s lovely news Joanie I am so pleased for you. Sadly there are different types of addicts as I have found over the years. My son is not one of the nice ones, that is why it’s so difficult. Not only is he violent, his pathological lying is offensive. Only recently, he told his boss, who has given him so many chances to get clean and sober always taking him back, that he was in hospital having been told he is dying of cancer and sorry he could not come into work. I only found this out yesterday. The appalling part is that we have just lost my father in law to cancer having helped to nurse him for the last 9 months. I was horrified when I saw the texts knowing it all to be a pack of lies, he was actually on a bender somewhere, his now ex boss was so worried for him. It’s unforgivable.
Before anyone says it’s the addiction and not the real person, it isn’t. He always lied long before the addictions got a hold. The addictions have just ensured that not one word that comes out of his mouth is true. He tried grooming me all day yesterday via text, saying how sorry he was, how he was getting in contact with addiction support groups etc how he loved all of us and then he asked for money and when I said no … boom back to the vile abusive texts calling me every name under the sun. I subsequently found out he had done this to all his siblings (who haven’t blocked him) too who are under strict instructions not to give him money, he even said he had switched his phone off and gone off the radar to “frighten’ us all. That is abuse, it’s abuse of his children and the rest of the family. He had run out of money, we wouldn’t help so he punished all of us over the jubilee weekend. It’s not just his addictions that need addressing.
He has a cat that he has abandoned yet again and his poor sister who lives a few doors down has to pick up those pieces feeding it and making sure it’s OK.
Joanie your son is obviously turning some sort of corner and I am really happy for both of you, because my son only remains sober and even then it’s never completely sober, when he is locked up somewhere. The picture you have painted is not one I have ever been able to paint sadly. My son is only interested in himself. Nasty drunk and victim playing sober. It’s all everyone else’s fault.