No they want you to be scared. Threatening suicide is part of the manipulative tactics addicts use to ensure you enable. Sometimes, sadly, addicts do die either accidentally through overdose or do take their own lives, however the only chance he has of changing his way of life is when he is forced into it. I spent a very long time with female prisoners who were addicts, it was very sad, but they pretty much all manipulated anyone they thought they could, they admitted it when they were clean. Being a parent means giving them wings to fly, it does not mean babysitting them for the rest of their lives if they make bad choices. Only he can change but he won’t whilst he is safe at home it’s too easy to keep taking the drugs.
Thinking of you it’s a horrible way to have to live your life and I point blank refuse to live in fear any more, it’s a form of coercive control and should be treated as such. My son always threatens to kill himself yet somehow he is still here still causing immense harm to his family and children. 10 years of significant addiction to alcohol and cocaine. He has choices, he can change with the support he has been offered. I have chosen to distance myself and whilst I still have the odd day of worry I don’t have the feelings of dread waking up every day that I used to have. I am far more philosophical and concentrate on his children now instead. X