Dear Theresa.
Thank you for taking time to reply to my message. Your story is helpful to read.
I also have two other young children in the house (9 & 11), this was part of the reason he had to go. They couldn’t witness his behaviour or have to smell the weed.
I feel as if I’ve chosen my daughters over my son, which feels unnatural and tormenting but I tried so, so hard to give him chance after chance, opportunity after opportunity. I had no choice as we were all at breaking point as a family. You’re right, the ripples of his behaviour have ongoing effects.
This is a Wierd thing to say but I’ve just got home from watching ‘Elvis’ at the movies with my husband. He loved his mum so much, he respected her, wanted to help her and was a devoted son. I found myself reflecting on my son, he literally doesn’t care if I’m dead or alive. I’d do anything for my son. It nearly cost me my marriage but when he smashed his room up in front of his little sisters, and we were frightened, I knew that was it.
He doesn’t want my help, support, food, company. It feels so unnatural, painful, gut wrenching.
Theresa, your story gives me some hope. If my son was clean and working that would be a big improvement. May I ask about the homeless charities you spoke to. Was that through your local council? Thank you. It’s such a hard scenario, I can’t believe this is happening to other people too. It’s a living hell. I’m sorry to hear you feel judged by other mums. I work in a school so I try and keep it secret yet I want to shout about how desperately unfair and hurtful it is. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Theresa, I hope your son sees that what you did was out of love. I hope one day he can be in your life again. Thank you for sharing your story with me.