Kate 1. So sad to read your post. I’ve read it twice because you describe my biggest fear.
I hope it isn’t incentive to talk about my son after what you’ve endured but I’m having a problem saying no to his request for £10 a day for food. I thought “£10 can’t hurt him” but I’ve discovered you can buy gear with £10. I’m worried I’m enabling him. I’ve kicked him out 3 months ago. Hes lost job after job after just days. Yesterday he lost a job after just 2 hours.
I’ve tried to talk to him about changing but he’s not interested. I guess my whole point of this message was to acknowledge enabling. You feel like it’s the right thing. It’s so so hard to say no and so far, I’m unable to say no.
All this is so hard. It’s a dark world that most people are oblivious to.
How are you coping Kate 1? Sending best wishes and kindness to you.