Reply To: Theresa

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februarymarie
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Hi Imagine Dragon- it is all very hard. I’m sure that you are doing the best you can, don’t be too hard on yourself. Loving an addict is an impossible situation that we as family members are not at all equipped for. For me, I had to stop enabling in small ways. It was the only way I could do it for my own sanity. You can find the strength to do small things that help him to face his own consequences.

The food thing is very hard. I would actually get my son groceries rather than giving him the money for groceries. It’s a small way of having some control that he won’t use your “gift” for his addiction. At the time, my son didn’t want groceries at all. He wanted money and you can imagine why. You could also put him in touch with local food banks where he could pick up some things. My son would never have done that either. He wanted money and he wanted it for alcohol.

Continue to strengthen yourself so you can have the resolve you need as time goes by. Hugs. ❤️

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