Hi DebC.
I am so sorry to read your post. I can understand the pain and frustration you feel. It’s so horrible not knowing which way to turn next.
Is your ex husband your sons father? I wondered if he could share some of this burden with you?
With regards to your living arrangements, it sounds like you are at the mercy of your son. I’m no expert but what is your line/point where you would throw him out and stick to it?
I’ve had councilling over the same issue.
What if your son continues to get even worse, will you always take him back? I’m concerned you are not going to find any peace of mind in this current situation.
Could you ask him to leave and say you’ll call the police if he causes damage again? (It’s easy to give advice when it’s not your own child, I really feel your pain and I respect its torture).
I took so much abuse, damage and manipulation from my son but the final straw was my two young daughters feeling scared as my son smashed his bedroom up because he couldnt find his I. D. Card.
I made him homeless that day. Felt awful. I’ve just got him hooked up with accommodation concern who will help him, (if he takes the help).
I’m worried about your mental health DebC – you are allowed a life too. At the moment sounds like your son it totally ruling you, no wonder it’s driving you to despair.
My heart goes out to you. These scenarios are awful and painful to the bone. It’s like a grief that goes on, and on and on.
Sending you lots of love, good luck, keep talking and reaching out x