Hi Debc.
Just to say I also found that helpful about how would you treat a friend. My son has asked to stay with me as he starts a job Monday and said he will get up and go if he is with me. I have said yes as long as he goes to work. The problem is I go away for the first time in 7 years for a week in 2 weeks. Now I am already feeling guilty if he doesn’t go while I am not here. I know he will say it was my fault if he loses the job. But what would I do if it was a friend, well I know I wouldn’t feel guilty and my son is 32 but it’s hard