Hi my friends. these last couple of days have been tough. It’s not my son. My sister’s husband called me last night to tell me that my beloved sister has a terrible drinking problem. My sister is my very best friend in life. We are only one year apart and have always been close from when we were little girls all through the tough times in our life- divorces, deaths, children- all of it. She has been an enormous support to me with my son’s troubles. I was getting worried about her myself because it often seemed like when I spoke to her in the evenings, she seemed tipsy and in the last year, often drunk. One time, she forgot that she was talking to me and thought I was someone else. I thought that maybe this is her having her end of the day drinks. I know many people do that and manage fine. Well, her husband told me that she’s been getting drunk every night for the last year or two. He’s not perfect, sometimes he doesn’t treat her right. I guess, yesterday, she was drunk by 3:30 in the afternoon and then just fell asleep. The saddest part is that she still has 2 young adult children living at home and this shocks me because she has always been such a good and devoted mother. Her daughter (whom I’ve very close to), called me too. She said she has been caring for her and putting her to bed on many occasions because my sister’s husband gets very angry at her and yells at her which breaks my heart.
The hard part is she never told me that is struggling so bad. I’m pretty sure that it is because of my son and didn’t want to add to my troubles. That hurts because we tell each other almost everything.
I’ve been crying all day. My back went out and I’m having a flare-up with my Rheumatoid Arthritis, so it’s been rough. I reached out to her and we are going to talk later today.
I know that this thread is for our sons, so I probably won’t post about this too much and keep it on our boys. You all have walked with me on my journey. If you are a praying person, may I ask for your prayers for everyone?