I am in recovery. I am only 47 days in and it has been hard. I have a boyfriend who is learning to live with and love me now I am sober. I am becoming a different person, a better person. This doesn’t excuse the lies I’ve told or the hurt that I have caused.
What recovery is teaching me is that there is a solution and there is hope. Addicts can change and remain sober.
Their sobriety is nothing to do with you though. You are not responsible for the choices that they make. You aren’t responsible for their happiness. You should protect yourself and do what is right for you. Appreciate the changing person as they go through recovery, but remember you aren’t in control and neither is the addict.
I wish you all the luck in the world and I hope your partner gets sober.