Thank you so much for your insight; this makes complete sense from your point of view. It’s just so terrible from mine. I am currently ignoring him completely. He’s blocked on everything, which is how it’s staying. His manipulation has given me PTSD to the point that even hearing from him makes me panic. I have since found out that I have been portrayed to be an absolute nightmare to everyone around him. Apparently, I am controlling, nasty and a gatekeeper to our finances. This could not be further from the truth! He blows every penny of our finances and then borrows from everyone around him, telling them I have blown our money. His spin on everything has always been that everyone else is at fault, my cousin was the drug pusher when in reality I have come to find out it’s ALL him. My cousin doesn’t even use!!
I don’t understand how his mind works and I guess I never will but enough is finally enough.
Thank you for such an insightful response x