Hi Lozzy,
It’s just awful isn’t it.
must be so hard for u non worrying about divorce, nothing straight forward.
that feeling is awful where u know uv been lured in to the argument so u can be the bad guy! and yes u do Barely recognise them, hard to see them as a good person in the end as they’re showing so much bad
My partner not been in house for nearly a month, is on it most days. Still has a job for now but his colleague’s are all on it too N he misses days or goes off his head
I’ve allowed him back a few odd days here n there n after each bender I’m closing off more n more. He’s flip flopping between he needs help to I’m to blame for his using because of my “nagging “ which is actually pure upset and then asking him to honour the promises and suggestions that HE makes then repeats same behaviour and wonders why I’m so angry and then says that I’m not here for him and he’s an addict but yet he says nothing works and wants my help for more options. I’ve tried to find every available option for him, he doesn’t completely do what is suggested and then obviously it doesn’t work
How can we be there for people showing so little regard for us? It’s hard.
Our intimacy is now destroyed, which makes him feel rejected as if it’s my fault n then I’m scared I will be ditched ????♀️
I’m feeling stronger in last few weeks though and friends have noticed a change in me, I’m calmer.
theres a zoom co anon at 7pm this eve of you or anyone interested. Go on the site, click meetings and scroll to the day to get meeting Id. U can also call up the phone number attached to the specific meeting for more information.
Good luck xxx