Hi
Even though my partner has been an addict for the length of time he has I have never looked into help for myself until now. I was reading about enabling you mentioned and cannot believe how I fit the profile of an enabler its like the penny finally dropped. I have always been worried about him paying his bills like car insurance n phone bill n other direct debits that when hes said he cannot afford them cus his sick pay does’nt cover (mmmm…….) I straight away have stepped in and paid them ” what a complete and utter dickhead I have been” I am typing this with the biggest smile on my face becos tonight I av told him after all these years that his behaviour is unacceptable and will not be tolerated anymore I will no longer enable him to act like this and he must take whatever consequences come with his stupidity and addiction. Wow I feel like I have just grown the biggest pair of balls and stuck em on.
Amazing thank you so much for your help and words of wisdom.