Thank you Sianny25 for your reply. I was having a really low moment last week and needed to vent.
Not that things are any better this week but I’m not feeling like I need to throw mugs at a wall!
she has been a ‘drinker’ for years, unfortunately it got worse 3-4 years ago. We’ve gone through withdrawal fits, D.Ts – which put her in intensive care, bad bruising and broken bones from falls. I say we’ve gone through it because she doesn’t remember any of it. I’m the one who witnesses all of these awful things.
She’s gone through all types of therapy- came out of meetings and got drunk.
I’d do anything to make her stop but I know her. If I put her out, she would get into a dangerous situation .
I couldn’t live with myself knowing I had a hand in that. I feel for your father. I completely understand the feeling of loyalty and responsibility. Even if they don’t deserve it. They are the person we once loved deeply and they loved us. To see this person crumble away , being ruled by a bottle is heart breaking. We all give good advice to each other …In our hearts we know what we should do to make our own lives better..But we can’t do it. We can’t turn our backs on the person we once knew. Your dad won’t leave your mum, the same way I won’t leave my partner. But something you could do would be to invite him over for dinner or out for a walk..and NOT talk about her. Your mum is on his mind 24/7 having an hour or 2 away from her helps to recharge the batteries and help him cope with the next episode.
