22 yr old weed addiction

Another day, another drama. I’m the parent and tried so hard to raise him alone. His dad made a new life with another wife and a new child and simply replaced him. I know it hurts but there’s some things mothers can’t fix. He smokes weed daily and said it’s for his back problem instead of trying to sort the problem. He gets angry, starts arguments for no reason and then it’s everyone else’s fault. He’s not addicted….he is. I shouted him……he’s been going on about things for ages getting angrier or nastier but now I’ve retaliated it’s my fault. Disqualified from driving……it’s the police fault. He punches a hole in the door…….I made him angry.

I no longer give him money. I tell him he needs to pay, he says he has no money. I tell him he has to leave, he said he won’t it’s his home. I tell him to get help but he won’t. So we’re stuck in this cycle.

I want to run away. Sell up and move somewhere but I’m stuck. I’m disappointed with us both but there’s no one to come grab him and fix him. If there was a man that would step up and hold him, show him all will be okay and he just has to turn his life round by getting help with the drugs but no one exists. And when I say it I’m nagging.