[Hmv67]

Hi, I’ve been struggling with this for over a year now. My daughter is 27 and still lives at home. She has mental health issues & now this addiction. I set boundaries but when I say she needs to move out she threatens suicide so I back down. She was doing great for a few months but has relapsed this past month & took more debt out to pay for her drugs. She goes to CA, been referred for support via GP, had counselling but nothing is working anymore. Her lies are out of control and I feel like I don’t even recognise her anymore. I live in a state of worry and have put my life on hold. Most days I think she’ll either take her own life or die through drugs. She’s lost jobs due to sick absence and has let herself go. It’s so heartbreaking to see and I feel useless. I get an angry, cry, shout, plead and every time she lets me down. I’m starting to feel resentful, ashamed and embarrassed by her, especially when I see her friends and other people’s kids moving on with their life. I’ve tried to give her all I could but feel a failure as a parent and now I’m lying to family members as I can’t bear to tell them what’s really going on. Can anyone relate to this at all?

[Gurleen Nayar]

<p dir=”auto” style=”white-space: pre-wrap;”>I’m so sorry you’re going through this — my heart really goes out to you. What you’re describing is incredibly painful and exhausting. You’re not a failure as a parent; you’re a parent who has been carrying an unbearable load while trying to keep your daughter safe. Addiction and mental health struggles like this often take over the whole family, and it’s completely normal to feel worried, resentful, ashamed, and heartbroken all at once.</p>
<p dir=”auto” style=”white-space: pre-wrap;”>You’re not alone in this. Many parents in similar situations have felt exactly as you do. Please consider getting some support for yourself — groups like Al-Anon or Nar-Anon are full of parents who understand the cycle of hope, relapse, fear, and guilt. You deserve help too.</p>
 
<p dir=”auto” style=”white-space: pre-wrap;”>Wishing you strength and a little gentleness toward yourself during this really tough time. 💙</p>

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