[brokenwife]

Me and my husband have been together for 10 years we have 3 kids ages 5, 4 and 6 weeks old. Today I found out about his addiction to cocaine, it started around 7 months ago when I started to notice a change in his behaviour pacing the house eyes wider than an owl not eating /sleeping he blamed this all on money issues due to starting his own business ! I believed him. Throughout my pregnancy he didn’t seem to have a care in the world for me and every bad thought I could think of ran through my head. “Is it because he didn’t want another baby or because I’m getting bigger “ I made myself feel utterly vile about my looks. This was around the same time he didn’t want to have sex anymore … from November until present his business went downhill and he brought no money into our home leaving my family to help me on my low wage To feed our children And keep a roof over our heads. He racked up debt (thousands) but always said it was for work which again I believed and even felt sorry for him. He stayed awake all night and slept all day! He stopped paying the kids any attention. Turned out all this time he has been snorting it in our shed as casual as when an advert comes on the tele or he was going outside for a cigarette then coming back in and sitting with out kids. This is now happening at least 3 times a day 4 days a week that I know of . He was wrecked most of my pregnancy and didn’t stop when our 3rd arrived , He was taking my kids to and from school in the car whilst high on Cocaine. He told my kids they didn’t need to wear seatbelts as it’s short distances ( they’re babies still they have car seats) he has take money from the children’s savings he has taken debt out in my name which is now more than I can even considering paying back. And so last night when I finally got all this admitted to me her sat and acted like he didn’t even care I got a few pathetic apologies and then he went to bed and woke up this morning acting like he had done nothing wrong. I made him leave but he didn’t care ! Please if someone can give me advice on what to do I would really appreciate it I need to know how to get the man I loved for so long back I need to know how to get him out of this hole because at the minute All I want to do is rip his head off for putting my children in this situation please help

[kel87x]

Hi, I Feel your pain as am in the same situation, I have been married 5 years and I didn’t have a clue for the first 3 years (he says he didn’t take it then) but then pretty much as soon as we got married he started disappearing for days and even weeks at a time taking excessive amounts of cocaine and pretty sure he has also cheated on me a few times although I cannot prove it. Over the last two years I have tried to support him but think I may have also enabled him a bit too because I wanted my husband and father to my kids back desperately and for a few months he would be Ok but he always goes back to it and I don’t know why. He has been to rehab twice once in 2018 and once in 2019 he is ok for a couple of months but then relapses again. I am paying everything by myself even the car he drives around in. I had enough and started divorce proceedings in November last year and it’s not made any didference he really just doesn’t care but yet he refuses to sign the divorce papers, he doesn’t provide for the children in fact he thinks ringing once in three weeks is him making an effort to see the kids, I get the blame for everything all this is my fault, his said I’m boring and don’t show him I love him his like a little child that isn’t getting enough attention but I’ve had enough of him blaming me when actually this is him and I have had two years of him treating me this badly it isn’t love for me at all he has just used me and bled me dry. he has stole off me Too and my children’s money and even money boxes in the house, even pawned My wedding Rings! the man is a disgrace and I honestly don’t think he will ever change.his family enable him and won’t see that there is anything wrong and won’t even have contact with me now when I have two of his kids it’s like I’m the one whose in the wrong. I know it’s very hard to deal with but even if they ask for help there’s no guarantees they won’t go back to it as my husband has done on and off for two years and is now with a woman who also takes it even tho he denies being with her but yet still won’t sign the divorce papers contribute to the house or even let me sell it So I’m stuck while he continues to have this power of control of me and the courts/women’s aid etc can’t help me even though he was also convicted of a domestic abuse charge. You have to ask yourself is what he is doing to you all worth it because I thought it was To get him back and I’ve spent the last two years let down constantly and utterly heartbroken and now realised it’s over I can’t do anymore for him his not interested in me or the kids at all and actually he doesn’t deserve us and I know in timer and the kids will be happy again

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