[emmaj112000]

it easy to blame ourselves but it is the other persons choice and you cannot always have control of whom you fall in love with. Have things improved?

[t]

Hi, I feel exactly what you are saying I have been with my partner 10 years have 2 kids and my situation appears like yours. It’s getting worse not better. He won’t get help. All the money goes on alcohol, drugs and gambling. I really want out now. I have had a year out with my youngest and just come off antidepressants as I was so low. I can’t say it will get better to you but I have been attending a local Adfam support group and it really helps to talk. I have stopped feeling guilty now as I know it is not my fault but I’m angry and resentful that I have let it go on so long, will he get help? Does he think he has a problem? Why does he do it? I have just given a time line and think I need to stick to it this time. The group offers info sessions as well. Check out if there is one near you. Honestly they are really helping me. Xx

[t]

You are not stupid he has to take some responsibility for his actions. X

[nitty]

He says heknows he has a problem but he is not willing to do anyhing about it, I have been on antidepressants myself nearly lost my job because of it, this week alone he has wasted £700 on it all, he wont me with the house or bills he just sits in my kitchen every night ignoring me I have talked to him til I am blue in the face he wont listen he just says I love u what more do u want lol…. its a joke, I jist cant take anymore im scared my anger will take over one day an its so hard, I feelfor everyone in this situation im going to find help a group for myself I need to talk this angerout with someone, thanks for the comments they were much needed xx

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