[victoria]

I am new to this and never entered a forum before so please bare with.

I’ll briefly give some history about my current situation and would really appreciate any help advice or guidance please, I am now desperate.

I’m 31, my brother 32, 10 months between us (I know-crazy!) we are and always have been very close, like twins!

We had difficulties in our childhood like most others! I have managed to keep my head above water, it’s not been easy but not much is. My brother however went down the hard drugs road, he sort of came out of it, is finally working, just smokes cannabis. He moved in with me after living his life with Mum, 10weeks later and it has been the hardest and worst most depressing time for a long time. He is drinking heavily, and recently I found him using crack cocaine. I have tried talking to him, I have always helped him, now I just don’t know what to do. He has stolen money from me, he loves me dearly and I love him, when sober he is great. He recently lost a friend and is grieving, I completely understand and support as best I can.

But he has always been a negative person and now I fear he is using this terrible tradgedy as a way of excusing his now in going behaviour.

He has self harmed for attention, he has no intentions of ending his life. I really have done everything and more for him but now I can’t stop crying because it is destroying me, I have a family home with children and a partner that I am trying to protect but I’m not sure I can keep my head up anymore.

I’ve told him how it affects me, he is always sorry, I’ve tried getting him professional help, but it’s all to easy to do his own thing with his friends, he is very self centred. If he only wanted help I would have a leg to stand on.

I apologise for rambling but I have no idea what to do.

And to anyone else that suggests I just kick him out, I cannot and will not, despite all of this I love him and will not see him on the streets, my brother is the sort that would throw his hands up in the air and say woe is me, rather than think – shit this is serious! I need to sort myself out!, and so I cannot risk him falling even further. Can anyone PLEASE PLEASE help me!!!!!

Thank you for time xxxx

[nathan]

Dear Victoria

Sorry to hear about everything you and your family are going through. All I can do, I’m afraid, is empathise… I actually just joined here to post about my sister, who seems to be similar to your brother from what you’ve said.

Here if you just want to bend an ear.

With all good wishes, N x

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