[icarus-trust]

Hi Sianny,
I’m sorry to read your post and can see how upsetting your mum’s drinking is for you.
If it would help you to talk with someone who would understand what you are going through please contact The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that provides support for people who are dealing with a loved one’s addiction.
We have people called ‘Family Friends’ who are trained and experienced and talking with one of them might help you to make sense of what to do next.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck with everything.

[bluebutterfly1]

Hi Sianny
You responded to my post.
I didn’t realise you still lived with your mum.
All the crying and not eating and poor sleep pattern sounds like there could be a touch of depression there too. Although alcohol and depression can trigger each other. Perhaps when she’s sober you could mention you were worried she was feeling low and think it could be depression and that maybe she could see her GP to get some tablets…. If your mum knows deep down that she has a problem it might give her the ‘excuse’ to go to the doctor.
we’re all struggling to cope. It’s something that’s not spoken about. I don’t discuss this with anyone I know. It always helps me to write on here when things get really bad. My thoughts are with you and your dad.
Take care

[jillian]

Hi Sianny
I know exatly how you feel because my sister so sounds like you mum –
She too blames everyone else and has always got an excuse to have a drink – when drunk she is violent, venemous, abusive, nasty and the slightest little thing can trigger her to having a drink – although she does admit she is an alcoholic but thinks that because she says it it is OK to drink – she too says noone cares but like you we always there for her (although I dont live with her – that must be really hard for you)
It absolutely wears you down n i do not know how to help her anymore – She is on antidrepressents but obviously do not work mixed with the alcohol – all we can do is be there for them but it is very trying and soul destroying to watch the people you love ruin their lives – my sister has lost her husband of 27 years, her two boys have left her because of the verbal abuse, although her 16 year old daughter still lives with her n i really dont know how she copes – my sister too stays in bed all day then says she has no life and no one care – it is a vicious circle –

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