[zwq]

Your grandson must be very embarrassed or protective of his mum?what does he want to do? He’s 17. It’s so hard. If the son was younger I would take him to yours as a safeguard issue. It’s a living nightmare isn’t it. Good luck with it.

I’m in utter dilemma too. Any ideas on my issues. Zwq.

[halo20]

Hey Yram,

My mum was and still is an alcoholic, myself and my brother and sister still bear the scars from our upbringing. I just wanted to put some perspective into your post. I also had grandparents and they were like a safe haven for me. They never insisted on anything, no ultimatums, no shame, no judgments – but they were always there for me, they provided stability, love and fun. I learned so much from them about family and love and cherished every moment with them. Without them I do not know where me and my brother and sister would have ended up. I never lived with them, but moved out of home pretty quick aged 18 and survived!!! You are probably a safe haven too, I bet your grandchild will remember this for all their life. I stopped contact with my mum as I couldn’t stand the lies and drama surrounding all aspects of her life and all the hurt that comes with alcoholism. Your grandchild will have grown up quicker than most and have a different type of childhood and seen and heard things other kids wouldn’t have, but it doesn’t mean they wont thrive. Best of luck and I hope you have thanks from your grandchild for just being there.

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